Everyone has a shelf. You know…the place where we mentally put the things we don’t want to deal with….to save the challenge for later…to store away the uncomfortable areas of our life…hoping with time those areas would disintegrate and just go away.
Like everyone — I had a really big-ass shelf. Year after year topics would come on and off the shelf. I would take some time to explore what was going on. I would contemplate. I would analyzed. I would be worried, afraid, concerned. I would find my inner mo-jo to get ready to overcome it. And just when it got to a place that I might actually do something about it — I would put it back up on the shelf to be taken down at another time in the future.
What holds us back from officially removing things from our shelf? For me, it was fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what might happen, fear of what I perceived would happen. Fear of not being able to handle it. Fear of rocking the little bubble of my life that was familiar.
Wayne Dyer says…Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
Things will come off the shelf when you are ready to face the pain of the situation, the circumstance, the habits, the defense-mechanisms and you are willing to do whatever it takes to do things differently.
Well, my little bubble of a life has been officially rocked. And I have never felt so alive. This isn’t to say that it is all easy or that I don’t experience sadness, or that every single thing was askew in my little bubble.
However, by being willing to permanently remove the items from my shelf, my energy is free. What use to consume my thoughts and energy in a negative way is gone. My energy is now being used to not focus on the past or the future — but really to focus on the here and now. To be alive in each moment knowing that I am where I am suppose to be, doing what I am suppose to be doing, and just being.
What I have learned about taking things off the shelf, staring issues straight in the eye and saying “bring it” is that:
- I am stronger than I think
- others are stronger than they think
- to live in fear just eats away at your soul and numbs you out
- to live in peace, love and clarity…you have to have peace, love and clarity
- there is always a safety net
- even though I experience an emotion — I am not going to stay in that emotion forever
- I get to define and re-define my life every day
- it impossible to fear the unknown — how can you fear something you don’t know
- in order to change something — you have to be willing to change it
My shelf is looking might empty these days….and interestingly enough I no longer feel the weight of the world on my shoulders.
Every moment is an opportunity to do things different. To figure out what is working in your life and what isn’t. To really assess where you compromise. To really assess where you want to stop compromising.
What has been on your shelf that you are afraid to do something about? How would your life be different if you were to actually look at it and make a plan to support removing the item permanently from your shelf?
Even the best of shelves require dusting — what are you willing to dust today?