However — just because I can do something, doesn’t mean I should. I often take on projects under the guise of “well, if I don’t do it, what is going to happen to the person, the project, the group, the goal?” or “well, I can just bang it out, why not….”
Well, the why not is because I no longer want to spend my time, energy, and talents on the things that do not bring me joy. I want to stay in alignment with my vision, my focus, my limited time.
Saying No or Saying Yes is something I have been working on for years. However, I saw myself losing my footing when I saw that a local organization clearly could use some good leadership, could really benefit from some marketing, program development and a good ole swift “I can so do this” kick in the pants. All of a sudden, I found my name up on the flip chart next to the name of a committee.
Then I remembered my ‘3 day rule’. Since I tend to get overly enthused in the moment, any time I am asked or I have the inkling to volunteer my time, I give myself 3 days to think it over. I can mull it all over…how much time is needed, what would I need to contribute, what kind of support would there be, is this something I REALLY want to spend my time on?
The ‘3 day rule’ is my own personal checks and balance system. It is a no-fail approach to make sure that what I choose to do is in alignment with how I want to spend my energy.
I gave myself the 3 day grace period and let the group know that I would not be able to effectively be a part of this team at this time.
Just having that conversation made me feel better….more connected even. Connected to myself.
What things do you wish you would have given yourself three days to really think about?